Everyones a narcissist

Yeah that’s right, you too.

narcissist is one of those popular labels in these times, narcissistic behaviour, toxic.

Honestly, i think they are bullshit terminologies.

Why ?

Well what is the definition of Narcissism.

Excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and ones physical appearance.

Self centredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects.

Selfishness involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy and a need for admiration as characterising a personality type.

There a just a few definitions.

Also the feeling of superiority or even inferiority, this one is the one i like.

Because it looks at both ends of the spectrum. Yeah sure the feeling of being superior to others would likely be the idealistic term of Narcissist. To be so self centred that everything is about you and not considering others, controlling others.

I think a lot of that comes from unhealed trauma, lack of self awareness, power trip, insecurities.

Then at the other end of the spectrum there is narcissism in the sense of inferiority.

You feel inferior to others, you make things about you and again insecurities, can behave in a way of trying to control others out of your own insecurities and obsession and self judgement with self image.

It’s still narcissistic behaviour but just on the other end of the spectrum.

So to be a judgemental fuck bag and start throwing around labels of narcissist, understand that we all have narcissistic tendencies.

Yes of course depending on where  they sit on the spectrum depends on how harmful and destructive they can be to not only other people but to yourself.

So how can there be one solid definition.

Also not accepting the fact that you have the tendencies and capabilities to have narcissistic behaviours.

because you do, so do i, so does everyone else.

Do you care about how you look?

Do you have a habit of sometimes making things all about you?

Turinng conversations into the you show?

yeah sure these are some of the milder sides but still, this is more about understanding that you are a human which means that you have the tendencies to be and act as all things just like everyone else, you’re not special, I’m not special.

Denying these tendencies also keeps sides of yourself tucked away from sight and shaming self for sometimes acting a certain way rather accepting and learning more about yourself and where you sit on the spectrum of certain human tendencies.

Knowing and accepting your own insecurities and being honest about them rather than throwing that shit onto other people and defending your inferiority complexes.

Chill the fuck out.

This is such a big part of personal growth and massive self acceptance.

More of awareness of having these tendencies and that’s ok rather going into some deep intellectual description and regurgitated information.

Just to highlight that hey, you’re a fucking human, you’re not perfect and never will be, stop trying so hard, stop hiding your flaws, tendencies, insecurities and instead accept them and do the best you can and know how, take responsibility and be honest about yourself and do your best not to be a massive arsehole to others and learn from your mistakes.

Don’t let other people define who you are and who you are not and remember we’re all fucking narcissists, some just sit a little further down the spectrum than others and you might have some work to do around that’s shit.