Sex and relationships part two.

Continuing on from part one talking about shame and guilt, old patterns surfacing, how it shows up in every area of your life. This part is more of what has been showing up for me personally the last week or so. I was recently having a friends with benefits situation,...

Sex and relationships part one

It’s been an overwhelming week with this one. Probably my most vulnerable area. Old patterns and behaviours emerging that just don’t cut it anymore. It’s uncomfortable but also an opportunity to change, that’s why they’ve been showing up for me of course. Like, here...

Men need challenges to grow

Men Need Challenges. This is just how men grow. We need challenges. I’m going to write this from my own experience and observation and see if it resonates with you. Firstly, the opposite of challenge is complacency, that’s not a great place to be, it’t not a bad place...

Everyones a narcissist

Everyones a narcissist Yeah that’s right, you too. narcissist is one of those popular labels in these times, narcissistic behaviour, toxic. Honestly, i think they are bullshit terminologies. Why ? Well what is the definition of Narcissism. Excessive interest in or...

Experiences are everything.

Several years ago I had an unexpected treat at the Isle of Wight festival.   I had taken my then girlfriend for the weekend as a birthday surprise.   Plus I got the benefit too lol.   I was most excited to see the Foo fighters live as I had a bucket list of bands that...

It’s just a story.

Let’s not make things more difficultly than they need to be. Wouldn’t that be just swell. So how can you make things more simple for yourself? Direct honesty. Yep that’s it. But it takes practice, we (humans) like to make things waaaaaaay fucking difficult for...

Don’t be such an attention seeker.

Don’t be such an attention seeker. That’s what you might have been told right? That to gain attention is a bad thing, that you should feel bad about ‘seeking attention’. maybe you were loud, outspoken, just being a kid and you get told to ssshhhhhhhhhh, be quiet,...

Shame will fuck you in the ass.

Shame will fuck you in the ass if you allow it.   This was one of the hardest things for me to shift and also exactly what was holding me back.    I know I’m a super kind, caring, direct, swears a lot, often hilarious guy that likes to get his ass out on mountains.   ...